Sunday, September 13, 2009

This Man I Love

It's 12:19 a.m. Officially September 13th, 2009. My first wedding anniversary. Not the way I ever imagined spending it. Tim is upstairs sleeping in bed alone and I'm in the living room curled up with the cat (and the laptop of course).

Before I go snuggle up with my hubby, I wanted to take a moment to tell the world just how wonderful he is. I could not ask for a better partner, although I'm sure in recent months Tim could.

On November 9th last year, I turned 29. Eeek! My 30th year. Tim and I got to talking about the list of things I wanted to do before I was 30. I had never actually made such a list, but I, somewhat jokingly, and mostly fantasizing, said that I wanted to be married, own a house, and have a baby. Perhaps I should have said I wanted a million dollars too, because didn't my sweet little hubby decide he would make all my dreams come true?!

Of course, the marriage thing had been taken care of. So a few days later, rather spontaneously and without any real discussion, Tim decided we'd stop trying to prevent getting pregnant (I conceived peanut sometime around November 19th). On April 28th of this year, we purchased our first house (it was no easy feat with our student debt and Tim took on a second job so we could make it work). On July 1st, we had our first baby. Things didn't work out exactly as we had planned, but if Tim could control the universe, I guarantee I would be sitting here babe in arms.

While I was growing Isla, Tim did everything he could to tend to my every need (and mood swing). He prepared every meal and washed the dishes after. He fed me dinner in bed in the early days when I was often too tired to hold my head up after work. He held my hair while I lost my breakfast every morning for the first trimester. He scooped the kitty litter every other day (despite that I brought the cats into the relationship and he swore he would never touch the litter box). He walked the dogs morning and night. He cleaned the house. I could go on and on. He did all of these things willingly, without being asked, and with a smile.

Since losing Isla, Tim has not stopped taking care of me. Seriously. He cooks dinner every night and insists on doing the dishes. He scoops the kitty litter. He walks the dogs. He cleans the house. He does it all, and when I try to help, he insists that I sit down and focus on taking care of myself.

Of course he does so much more than physically tending to me and the house. He holds me while I cry. He kisses away my tears. He listens when I speak. He sides with me when I am angry. He is patient and kind and caring. He is my best friend.

And oh, how I love him, both for what he does for me, but more importantly for who he is. This man I love.

Oh, and in case you didn't notice, he's incredibly handsome too.

Happy First Anniversary Baby. As the song goes, all I know is we are better together. Together we can survive anything, even losing Isla. Thank you for being you and for all you do. I love you. xoxoxoxoxoxoxo


  1. What a bittersweet first year as husband and wife. Congratulations on your anniversary, and wishing you many, many more.

  2. Happy Anniversary. I hope the upcoming year brings you much happiness. xx

  3. From the heart of Tim, logged in as Melissa..




  4. Happy First Anniversary and "yes" he is very handsome! Hope you have a beautiful day.

  5. Happy first anniversary! I didn't get online at all yesterday, but I thought of you.

    And here's another interesting coincidence between us - my hubby's name is Tim, too. :)

  6. Just came across your blog - Happy first anniversary together (though of course I wish you had your little ones with you). What a wonderful tribute to your husband! (((hugs))) from another Canuck babyloss mumma - but I'm in Lotus Land....

  7. Happy Anniversary. Your Tim sounds wonderful.

  8. Happy belated anniversary. Hugs to both of you for having made it through a very tough first year.

  9. So, so close to my own story. :( I lost my own Isla (middle name Noelle) to a cord accident on September 15th of 2007. My husband, also a Tim (!), and I celebrated our anniversary on the 6th of September, a week before our daughter's birthday. It's so hard. I am so sorry for your loss.

  10. oh no! i think i just fell in love with your husband! lol. he sounds absolutely wonderful, you are so lucky. happy late anniversary.