It's all normal feelings. No one would ever wish for a babies death, not even the bitter part of us who are still desperately trying to figure out why it was our children. I hate this blasted club.
no need to feel guilty, really. we all wish our babies were here, that things had turned out differently for us. i always think, why does SHE deserve her baby and i don't? i think it's quite normal and natural. yes, stupid club, i hate it too. nobody should have to belong to this club.
I'm 30 years old and very happily married to Tim, my "too good to be true" husband. I have two babies in heaven - "Peanut", miscarried on December 8, 2008, who taught us what we really want out of life, and our beautiful baby girl, Isla Michaela, born still on July 1, 2009, who is still teaching us what life is really all about.
You never wished for the baby to die, just that yours had lived. There is no shame in that. We all wish that right along with you.
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I am so sorry for her...and for us.
ReplyDeleteDon't feel guilty. I have the same thoughts often; why this child and not mine.
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It's all normal feelings. No one would ever wish for a babies death, not even the bitter part of us who are still desperately trying to figure out why it was our children. I hate this blasted club.
ReplyDeleteno need to feel guilty, really. we all wish our babies were here, that things had turned out differently for us. i always think, why does SHE deserve her baby and i don't? i think it's quite normal and natural.
ReplyDeleteyes, stupid club, i hate it too. nobody should have to belong to this club.
I am so sorry that another woman has to go through what I do. I do not wish this grief upon anyone.
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